A Word On Marriage
From the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife. They twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Mark 10:6-9
From the beginning God intended man and woman to be joined together as a team. The Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone: I will make him an help meet (fit) for him. Gen. 2:18
They are no longer two separate individuals, but one. Physically, through the sexual act, but on a higher plane one in desires and hopes. One in commitment and purpose. They have bonded. If practiced correctly the result of such unity is a blessing.
Notice the instruction found in Ecc. 9:9 Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity. God wants husbands and wives to live together in JOY all of their lives. Of course sometimes, due to the shortcomings of a mate, that doesn't happen. But, if a person truly knew God and followed what He taught, marriage would be one of the greatest physical blessings given to mankind.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. Eph. 5:25. Christ once again has set us a perfect example. The church, (His bride) made up of imperfect individuals, was so precious to Jesus that He gave His own life in sacrifice. If men followed their Creator's instructions and example, they would love their wives as their own bodies. They would be nourishing the relationship. Making sure that their mate's needs were met. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: Eph.5: 28,29
Wives, if this commandment were obeyed in the spirit, would deeply respect their husbands. And the wife see that she reverence her husband Eph 5:33 last part. As the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be unto their own husbands in everything. Eph. 5:24 Why give man such power? Is not the woman, in many cases, just as capable of making sound decisions as the man? Of course. In Gal. 3:28 we find, There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus God looks on ALL people as equal. But, God is not the author of confusion. I Cor. 14:33. In any relationship, business or personal, someone must have the final word in matters, otherwise there is no order and confusion results. So it is in the family structure. There must be someone who calls the final shots, even if, occasionally, they make errors in judgment.
Two are better than one. God says in Ecc. 4:9. But warns, What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Mark 10:9 Why? For our own happiness, but also because the family unit of a loving husband as leader, a respectful wife as his helper, and the obedient children that result from that union, shadow the spiritual reality of God's plan for mankind.
Husbands and wives who truly know the LORD will be working to reflect God in their marriages, living, as best as they are able, up to the standards He has laid down through His word.