6.18.2018

Pew Research Center Survey


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A few highlights on the question of service refusal in a revealing study, powered by @SurveyMonkey. Here's the full report. But I'll thread to save speed readers the work. madebykathryn.com/wp-content/upl

I came across this tweet put forward by Kathryn Hamm stating the results of the study done by the Pew Research Center and concluding that:

Majority of Wedding Professionals (67%) believe businesses should be required to serve same-sex couples

I think that the stats they used and missing a point here. I'm playing the Devil's advocate here a bit, as we do believe in, and cater to, same sex couples for their weddings in Hawaii,. But, I don't believe that vendors should be "required" to serve same-sex couples.  We all know that the right for LGBTQ couples to be legally married is new, and not without it's controversy, but we can't assume that everyone in the wedding industry has to go along with it. Now, if I was a baker who makes wedding cakes, I wouldn't even see how it's remotely affecting me that I make a cake for a gay couple. But, I do see that ministers and photographers & videographers, who are more closely working with the couple on an emotional and very personal level, should easily be able to politely refuse to provide services for their wedding.

Photographers

I know a number of photographers who have been photographing weddings for decades, there are also many who are "old school". They have an art to capturing the love between a bride & a groom, they specialize in it, they relish in it, they get off on it even. How, if some of these photographers are "required" to take photos of, let's say, two men kissing, and they really can't get into the excitement of photographing that, should they be mandated to service that couple? I'm not even talking about a religious conviction here, it's a human conviction that the photographers are conditioned, for many years, to get amazing shots of both men and women as they pledge their love to each other. Photographers & videographers should have the option to opt-out of performing services if they don't feel it's in their best interest, they don't feel that their artistic capabilities are best served, of if they just don't feel comfortable with it.

Ministers/Officiants

Perhaps surprisingly, a majority of the ministers I know are very happy to preside over same sex weddings. I say this, because when the Hawaii Governor's decision to legalize same-sex marriage came down in 2013, I polled all of our ministers/officiants (about 20) to see if  they wanted to opt-in or opt-out of performing same-sex marriages. Most of them said they would perform gay weddings. A few said that they would not under any circumstances marry gay couples for their Christian stand on the sanctuary of marriage between a man and a woman. Obviously, this was very important for us when scheduling officiants for our couples weddings. We also had to ask couples, especially when it wasn't obvious, if their wedding was a same-sex wedding?  Some couples, who's names were like: Terry, Robin, Francis, Pat, etc. understood why we had to ask them. Some others may have been a little taken-aback.

DJ's

Most of the Dj's I know, I know about 10 of them, don't have an issue with providing services a same-sex celebrations. Although, if they did, they should not be required to do so.

In Conclusion

Although the study shows that 67% of wedding professionals believe businesses should be required to serve same-sex couples, I do not believe that they realize that you can't just make everyone be required to service same-sex wedding couples.

Kathryn is also co-author of the groundbreaking book, The New Art of Capturing Love: The Essential Guide to Lesbian and Gay Wedding Photography. Follow her on Twitter @madebykathryn.

6.17.2018

Sheri & Christopher's Dream Maui Wedding

Sheri's haku head piece

Sheri & Christopher

Aloha! See Sheri & Christopher's Hawaiian Island Wedding at Palauea Beach in Wailea, Maui. Features include images by Tim Clark, Sheri & Christopher, who were visiting from Eugene Oregon, exchanged their vows with a Hawaiian style ceremony presided over by Kahu Kamuela Rodrigues. Sheri decided to wear a very colorful haku head lei, for a even more Hawaiian feeling, while Chris donned a very special Hawaiian maile leaf lei. Sheri & Christopher also opted to have only one guest for their intimate ceremony on the beach. The couple stayed at the Sugar Beach Resort in North Kihei, just a short drive to this special beach. They had always dreamed about a Hawaiian destination wedding/honeymoon. 

Link to the photos

Contributors
Photography Tim Clark
Coordination Hawaiian Island Weddings, Inc.
Officiant Kahu Corey "Kamuela" Rodrigues
Flowers & Decor Kihei Wailea Flowers by Cora

Taffi & Patrick's Hawaiian Island Wedding at Palauea Beach

Taffi & Patrick

Taffi & Patrick shaka

Aloha! Join us for Taffi & Patrick's Hawaiian Island Wedding at Palauea Beach in Wailea, Maui. Features include beautiful images by Tim Clark, Taffi & Patrick, who came from Henderson, Nevada, exchanged their vows with a Christian ceremony by Pastor Bob McCollor. Since it was Tuesday, their were very few people on this seculded Maui beach at sunset. Taffi & Patrick also opted to have music during their ceremony and celebrated with a small intimate cake & beverage on the beach. Although they were staying in Ka'anapali, they had no proble coming to this special spot in Wailea. They did not wish to bring any guests with them for their destination wedding/honeymoon. 

Link to the slideshow

Contributors
Photography Tim Clark
Coordination Hawaiian Island Weddings, Inc.
Officiant Pastor Bob McCollor
Music Louise Alborano
Cake Maui Wedding Cakes
Flowers & Decor Kihei Wailea Flowers by Cora

Ruth & Scott's Maui Beach Wedding

Ruth & Scott's Maui Beach Wedding

Ruth & Scott's Wedding jump

Aloha! Join us for Ruth & Scott's Hawaiian Island Wedding at Palauea Beach in Wailea, Maui. Features include gorgeous images by Tim Clark, Ruth & Scott exchanged their vows with a special Christian ceremony by Pastor Bob McCollor on a beautiful Maui beach at sunset. Ruth & Scott live in West Virginia and stayed at the Sands of Kahana Resort. They did not wish to bring any guests with them for their destination wedding/honeymoon. 

Link to the photos

Contributors
Photography Tim Clark
Coordination Hawaiian Island Weddings, Inc.
Officiant Pastor Bob McCollor
Flowers & Decor Kihei Wailea Flowers by Cora

Leaetta & Lewis 10 Year Renewal of Wedding Vows

Leaetta & Lewis 10 Year Renewal of Wedding Vows

Leaetta & Lewis Renewal


Aloha! Join us for Leaetta & Lewis's Hawaiian Island Wedding Renewal at Palauea Beach in Wailea, Maui. Features include gorgeous images by Tim Clark, Leaetta & Lewis celebrated their 10 year anniversary by renewing their vows on a beautiful Maui beach at sunset. The couple live in Orange Park, Florida and stayed at the Royal Lahaina Resort. They did not have any guests for their second honeymoon celebration. 

Link to the slideshow

Contributors
Photography Tim Clark
Coordination Hawaiian Island Weddings, Inc.
Officiant Rev. Charlie Hull
Flowers & Decor Kihei Wailea Flowers by Cora